Premarital Counseling
This past Monday Dan and I attended our first premarital counseling session. While we are not asked to do so by our officiant, we wanted to do so ourselves and proceeded with signing up for a few counseling sessions.
I really did not know what to expect in regards to these sessions. Dan and I are both open books and we are both good in terms of communication. However, I do feel that there is always room for improvement and almost went into the session prepared to be told what we needed to “fix” or work on.
The session basically consisted of our counselor throwing out topics and having us discuss. It started off fairly basic (in my eyes), talks about money, family, friends, chores, and careers. Then we moved onto talks of issues we have had in the past, how we overcame those, children, and the possibility of moving for a career and our separate goals/aspirations.
I was pleasantly surprised to see that our therapist was impressed with our open communication, honesty, and the fact that we had already covered all of these topics (and quite thoroughly). There were no “shockers” for either Dan or I. We both were honest about our faults and even had some good laughs about them in our session. We left with the final comment from her of “You guys really are a great team and I can tell you are truly in love. I will see you in a month but at this time I see nothing you need to improve on”.
Perhaps I expected there to be more “eye openers” but I admit, after leaving we both were on a great high and even commented on how lucky we are to have such a strong relationship. Now, we are both completely aware life will keep throwing us curve balls and that things may not always be smooth sailing but we are in this together.
I guess we will see how the session goes at the end of August. Perhaps we will discuss some topics we haven’t thought to discuss before. Either way, I am glad that we are going through this process. She did give us some good tips on other things to try in the future if things are bumpy. I am a huge advocate for being proactive about things and feel this process will allow us to view things in a different light. Counseling truly is a positive thing if you approach it in that way and have an open mind.
And for now, Dan and I will continue to be happy to have one another. :)
